Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Why Do We Believe Men Have No Self-Control?

Blogger Veronica Partridge 

For the past several months, I have been having a conviction weighing heavy on my heart. I tried ignoring it for as long as I could until one day a conversation came up amongst myself and a few others (both men and women). The conversation was about leggings and how when women wear them it creates a stronger attraction for a man to look at a woman’s body and may cause them to think lustful thoughts. God really changed my heart in the midst of that conversation and instead of ignoring my convictions, I figured it was time I start listening to them and take action. 

 I went home later that day and shared the convictions I was having with my husband. Was it possible my wearing leggings could cause a man, other than my husband, to think lustfully about my body? I asked my husband his thoughts on the matter when he got home. I appreciated his honesty when he told me, “yeah, when I walk into a place and there are women wearing yoga pants everywhere, it’s hard to not look. I try not to, but it’s not easy.” 

 I instantly felt conviction come over me even stronger. Not that I wasn’t feeling it earlier, or else I wouldn’t have thought twice about the conversation, but after talking to Dale, it hit me a lot harder. If it is difficult for my husband who loves, honors, and respects me to keep his eyes focused ahead, then how much more difficult could it be for a man that may not have the same self-control? Sure, if a man wants to look, they are going to look, but why entice them? Is it possible that the thin, form-fitting yoga pants or leggings could make a married (or single) man look at a woman in a way he should only look at his wife? 

 And at that moment, I made a personal vow to myself and to my husband. I will no longer wear thin, form-fitting yoga pants or leggings in public. The only time I feel (for myself) it is acceptable to wear them, is if I am in the comfort of my own home or if I am wearing a shirt long enough to cover my rear end. I also want to set the best example of how to dress for my daughter. I want her to know, her value is not in the way her body looks or how she dresses, but in the character and personality God has given her. I have been following the vow I made to myself for the past couple of weeks now and though it may be difficult to find an outfit at times, my conscience is clear and I feel I am honoring God and my husband in the way I dress.


This was making the rounds last week.

Initially I just snorted and thought to myself, "Must be a slow news day."

The more it tumbled around in my brain, the more indignant I became.

I realize this is only one blogger and not the universal thought, yet the fact that it received so much press bothered me.

The message that is screaming at me from all of this is Men Can't Be Held Accountable.

How insulting and frankly, sexist is that thinking? I mean, if a woman is running around in leggings with a shapely backside she is inciting in the heart of men lust, ungodly thoughts, and makes him lose the ability to govern his own thoughts. Because men are just that base, uncontrollable, and childlike.

Why just the backside then? Maybe we should cover our legs at all times as well? A shapely leg can get some men thinking racy thoughts. Or breasts. Just the curve of a breast through a t-shirt or sweater could change a man's day yes? Or feet. A pretty foot could just about make a man or two breathe a little heavier.

What bullshit.

Or reverse this thinking hmm? Women have thoughts as well when they see an attractive man out and about. Whether it's his backside or the curve of his back into his pants or maybe a glimpse of nice abs.

Just when you could believe we are making strides towards a new think crap like this makes the news and I realize that all of that is just illusion.

Watch your men all of you women out there. He just can't control himself and who knows what he'll do when left to his own devices!

grr and gah


T said...

"...Was it possible my wearing leggings could cause a man, other than my husband, to think lustfully about my body? ..."

(Or possibly throw up in repugnance perhaps??? Or maybe that only happens in WV...or Alabama...Or Mississippi? Where countless dumb bitches don't have enough sense to NOT wear leggings when their asses exceed the size of barns?)

Yes, that was a bullshit post. LOADS OF BULLSHIT. Give me a F'g break!

Totally agree with your viewpoint on this. Pisses me off. Now you have me all agitated!

Ms. A said...

I don't look good regardless of what I'm wearing and thankfully my hubby has stuck with me and has tons of willpower, because there are lots of attractive women out there, whether they are wearing yoga pants, or something else.

T said...

The thing is, this blog post came along just days after I was standing in a line at Kohls to make a return, and in front of me were two very large women wearing ... you guessed it ... LEGGINGS. Their shirts barely grazed the widest part of their asses, leaving nothing to the imagination -- ripples and valleys and hills and dimples galore. And to top it off, the wore "Ugg-like" boots, which drew even MORE attention to their mass and ridiculous outfits. How could they possibly think that looks attractive, much less "alluring"? -- Sorry, I just had to have another two cents thrown in here. I'm leaving now. Done.

Deborah said...

Ms A - you are lying about not looking good.

tPretty - oh I know what you're talking about! I think a plus-sized girl can look adorable in leggings, but I truly truly know what you're talking about. I see it around these parts more than I care to think about! Ish - dimples on asses are not lovely. I've mentioned this before, but my daughters and I call it hail-damaged asses! lolol